Monday 16 November 2009

About Domestic Violence Against Men

Statistics About Domestic Abuse And Violence Against Men. Very little is known about the actual number of men who are in a domestic relationship in which they are abused or treated violently by women. In 100 domestic violence situations approximately 40 cases involve violence by women against men. An estimated 400,000 women per year are abused or treated violently in the United States by their spouse or intimate partner. This means that roughly 300,000 to 400,000 men are treated violently by their wife or girl friend.
Once again an area Davey has had first hand experience, and for me one of the more tricky blogs. I would describe domestic violence as cowardice by either party but from a man's perspective the accepted norm is you don't hit a woman! So when the table is turned you are given a double whammy as even in the act of defence it can be construed as aggression as that is what society expects, and what if the woman threatens to injure herself? Then she tells the police it was you that threw her down the stairs or such like. Attitudes on this need to even up and women should recognise as with false accusations of rape this undermines genuine victims of either heinous crime!

Male victims of domestic violence
Men are victims of domestic violence
at the hands of both female and male
partners.






Why Do We Know So Little About Domestic Abuse And Violence Against Men?

There are many reasons why we don't know more about domestic abuse and violence against men. First of all, the incidence of domestic violence reported men appears to be so low that it is hard to get reliable estimates. In addition, it has taken years of advocacy and support to encourage women to report domestic violence. Virtually nothing has been done to encourage men to report abuse. The idea that men could be victims of domestic abuse and violence is so unthinkable that many men will not even attempt to report the situation.

The dynamic of domestic abuse and violence is also different between men and women. The reasons, purposes and motivations are often very different between sexes. Although the counseling and psychological community have responded to domestic abuse and violence against women, there has been very little investment in resources to address and understand the issues of domestic abuse and violence against men. In most cases, the actual physical damage inflicted by men is so much greater than the actual physical harm inflected by women. The impact of domestic violence is less apparent and less likely to come to the attention of others when men are abused. For example, it is assumed than a man with a bruise or black eye was in a fight with another man or was injured on the job or playing contact sports. Even when men do report domestic abuse and violence, most people are so astonished men usually end up feeling like nobody believes them.
Click on the title to view a film on this and consider that like Parental Alienation, domestic abuse has a psychological affect on children that may stay with them for life and affect their future relationships.

1 comment:

  1. MY name is Mark, I live in UK, and recently split up from my partner of which we have a beautiful 18 month daughter, I was getting verbally, emotinally and psychically abused, and after the most violent attack on me, I left the house. No one beleives me, or doesn't want to beleive, although my ex partner had a history of abuse agaisnt men. Its been 14 months fighting the court system for access to my daughter as my ex refuser's to give joint custody, she has broken the court order 7 times, but no one asked why, and I have 1 hour aweek with my little girl, which is supervised. There is no one too turn too here, no support for men that have been abused. Social services dont want too know, if I would hAve done, what she did too me, I would be in handcuffs and jailed awaiting the court cse 28th Feb 2013. Where is the justice.

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