I was sitting in the car the other day waiting for my wife to return from collecting a prescription from Boots, so found myself flipping the pages of a Take a Break magazine which I knew my wife enjoyed completing the competitions so felt I could lend a hand, but what I found was a little more then disappointing.
The editorial seemed to be from the dark ages reminding me of the suffragettes of 100 years ago through to women’s lib of the 1960’s and on to the long running BBC radio programme Woman’s Hour ( which Davey still takes pride in the fact that I spammed their message board out of existence on the subject of Family Law where women already enjoy the bias!)
The article in question, appeared on page 17, 29th July 10, titled ‘Raising Baby Together’ with a sub heading “It used to be mother’s job to set the rules, do we really want fathers poking their nose in?”
God, I thought this kind of biased bigotry went out with burning bra’s, surely not today and if the tables were turned this would be outlawed under the Sexual Discrimination Act.
Throughout 6 years of campaigning, and in the face of the blatant prejudices from the closed Family Court, where sexual discrimination and injustice are their stock in trade, yet still in all my writings have managed to maintain a balanced view in the realization there are many fair-minded mothers doing a very good job, so why not here?
I would accept it might have been hard 50 or 60 years ago for a Dad to leave the mine or foundry and adopt the mother’s role in the home, but today we are a more sophisticated breed and short of childbirth there is very little we would not be unable to provide over and above the mandatory sperm and cash! Women have long fought for equal rights especially in the work place so why is there this insistence a father should not take on his full parental responsibilities including taking up the slack should the mother wish to pursue a career too? Dads can do the school run, prepare meals and lunch boxes, help with homework as well as offer reassurance and encouragement when your child is anxious, it is not a contest Dad is not trying to out do mum and it shouldn’t be the other way round, they may just take a different approach which in the end should ultimately be to the benefit of the children!
One sad equality I have observed in my years of study is that some women are equally capable of child abuse as some men!
In a further article page 25 in the 15th July 10 edition, a mother started to run a hot bath leaving a toddler it the bathroom unattended whilst she went to fetch his pyjamas from the next room, the child climbed into the scolding water and sustained 25% burns and some 3 degree burns and the picture revealed the little lad in bandages from head to foot yet far fro chastisement the mother was rewarded for her letter to the magazine when in my view she should have been prosecuted for neglect and can you imagine if this happened to a child that was in the care of his father during contact, the judge would probably ban him from seeing his child ever again!
The final article I wish to highlight from what I am beginning to realize is quite an erroneous publication, is the plight of an 11 year old girl raped and allowed to give birth to the resulting child: also in the 15th July 10 edition. For one thing they blanked out the babies face but although they claim they changed the 11 year olds name she too should have had her face blanked (She too is only a child Ladies) or better still not publish this sensationalized story in the first place, allowing this child and her child to be supported robustly but privately behind closed doors, life does not need to be seen from the eyes of ‘Jeremy Kyle’ all the time!
As I have said I write 3 blogs on worldwide issues relating to Family Law and Child Welfare and of my 100’s of readers a high proportion are women ( at first I thought Family Court is an anti man thing, it is in fact an anti good parent device) and I feel sure most of those who correspond with me would be insulted themselves to read this outdated, biased and bigoted clap-trap promoted by this innocent sounding Take a break magazine. Furthermore they feel so hard done by society they are continually launching campaigns against how they see themselves being wronged, What more do they want? If you get pregnant at 14 or 16 the state will provide you with a home and 18 years of benefits, the workplace is now equal in law for women , the elderly and those who have immigrated here and far more equal then any father faces in the Family Courts!