If I were to give separating parents advice, and most especially the unsuspecting fathers who’s determination to do what is right for their children will invariably lead to separation not only from their former partner or wife but all too often there children, I would tell them not to set foot inside a Family Law Solicitor’s office with the aim of taking the matter to court.http://www.blogger.com/carole.malone@notw.co.uk
I was considering the points I wished to make in this blog when I read Carole Malone’s Column ‘Spot the Victim’
http://www.newsoftheworld.co.uk/columnists/carolemalone/894030/Carole-Malone-Spot-the-victim.html
and her comparison between the care lavished on Jon Venables, who as a ten year old killed little Jamie Bulger now as an adult and a number of identity changes has become a 27 year old paedophile keen on trawling the internet to satisfy his craving, and the care of Little Khyra Ishaq!
This was the 7 year old child whose mother and partner allowed her to starve to death in a main district of Birmingham in the West Midlands whilst NOT allowing concerned social workers, who at one time ignored pleas from Khyra’s natural father when he raised his concerns, access to the little girl who was also deprived school and left to live in squallier till she wasted away through lack of access to the fully stocked family refrigerator!!
notw.co.uk/columnists
Returning to our Fathers heading lemming like to the family solicitor note the over use of the words ‘access’ and ‘allowing’ in the previous paragraph, and consider the incompetence of the social workers, these are the same incompetents who neglected Baby Peter & Victoria Climbe in Haringay North London and no matter where you are in the UK you will face similar incompetence from social workers if they intervene in your court case, or worse the appalling CAFCASS!
I entirely concurred with Carole Malone’s view in her article when I made my own comparisons; that of Child Murderer Ian Huntley, and well father’s like me who have gone through the Family court system.
Huntley showed no remorse for killing two little girls in Soham Cambridgeshire some years ago, in fact I wonder if anyone else noticed, very much like the infamous Dr. Shipman, showed utter contempt when they were confronted by the press before being arrested as if to say “I know something you don’t”
This week we learn that having sustained an attempted cut throat whilst in prison his contemptuous behavior is now leading him to take proceedings to sue the authorities for £100,000 which overall and like Venable’s benevolent treatment could cost the tax payer £250,000. The victim’s rights are never considered yet these two are allowed to continue to enjoy theirs!
Now compare that to a father like myself who was concerned to show stability to my children throughout separation proceedings and having spent some £32,000 in 2004 was granted a joint residency order, weekly overnight stays, alternate weekends and all the school holidays shared, something I had hoped would serve to offer stability and routine in my children’s lives for at least the next 6 years when they would both attend secondary school and in my opinion would be mature enough to decide which parent they would be with at particular times and adopt a more relaxed approach after the restraints of the court orders. In addition to this I provided a second family home equal distance to both schools as the former family home they shared with their mother, what I did not anticipate was a systematic unraveling of this perfectly reasonable situation primarily by the mother but condoned and supported over the interim 4 years by solicitors, Family Court judges and social services and in spite of no anti molestation orders or other restraining mechanisms being put in place and in spite of no detrimental reports by the afore mentioned social services that would justify my contact being stopped it only took the mother to say no and her action in that time lead to me not only having my children withheld and subsequently alienated, which in turn lead to my own bankruptcy whilst my ex partner and new boy friend (who had not spent 30 seconds in a family Court) taking possession of my share in the former home and unrestricted access to my children!
Once again the likes of Huntley are lavished with rights which many fathers could only dream of and if this prejudice affected anyone else in society it would be deemed illegal!!
In an unprecedented act of commonsense this new coalition Government in the form of Home Secretary Teresa May has succumbed to the 10 year campaign by Sara Payne who’s campaign along with Baby Peter, and Family Law crisis inspired my original blog last October, and who’s daughter Sarah was murdered by a convicted sex offender Roy Whiting at the age of 8. So called Sarah’s Law will alert parents of sex offenders, lets hope this includes the afore mentioned Venables, living in their neighbourhoods and whilst there are the usual bleats of vigilantism, providing false allegations are dealt with robustly, let this be a stronger deterrent then
any Government, Law or System could purvey!
and her comparison between the care lavished on Jon Venables, who as a ten year old killed little Jamie Bulger now as an adult and a number of identity changes has become a 27 year old paedophile keen on trawling the internet to satisfy his craving, and the care of Little Khyra Ishaq!
This was the 7 year old child whose mother and partner allowed her to starve to death in a main district of Birmingham in the West Midlands whilst NOT allowing concerned social workers, who at one time ignored pleas from Khyra’s natural father when he raised his concerns, access to the little girl who was also deprived school and left to live in squallier till she wasted away through lack of access to the fully stocked family refrigerator!!
notw.co.uk/columnists
Returning to our Fathers heading lemming like to the family solicitor note the over use of the words ‘access’ and ‘allowing’ in the previous paragraph, and consider the incompetence of the social workers, these are the same incompetents who neglected Baby Peter & Victoria Climbe in Haringay North London and no matter where you are in the UK you will face similar incompetence from social workers if they intervene in your court case, or worse the appalling CAFCASS!I entirely concurred with Carole Malone’s view in her article when I made my own comparisons; that of Child Murderer Ian Huntley, and well father’s like me who have gone through the Family court system.
Huntley showed no remorse for killing two little girls in Soham Cambridgeshire some years ago, in fact I wonder if anyone else noticed, very much like the infamous Dr. Shipman, showed utter contempt when they were confronted by the press before being arrested as if to say “I know something you don’t”
This week we learn that having sustained an attempted cut throat whilst in prison his contemptuous behavior is now leading him to take proceedings to sue the authorities for £100,000 which overall and like Venable’s benevolent treatment could cost the tax payer £250,000. The victim’s rights are never considered yet these two are allowed to continue to enjoy theirs!
Now compare that to a father like myself who was concerned to show stability to my children throughout separation proceedings and having spent some £32,000 in 2004 was granted a joint residency order, weekly overnight stays, alternate weekends and all the school holidays shared, something I had hoped would serve to offer stability and routine in my children’s lives for at least the next 6 years when they would both attend secondary school and in my opinion would be mature enough to decide which parent they would be with at particular times and adopt a more relaxed approach after the restraints of the court orders. In addition to this I provided a second family home equal distance to both schools as the former family home they shared with their mother, what I did not anticipate was a systematic unraveling of this perfectly reasonable situation primarily by the mother but condoned and supported over the interim 4 years by solicitors, Family Court judges and social services and in spite of no anti molestation orders or other restraining mechanisms being put in place and in spite of no detrimental reports by the afore mentioned social services that would justify my contact being stopped it only took the mother to say no and her action in that time lead to me not only having my children withheld and subsequently alienated, which in turn lead to my own bankruptcy whilst my ex partner and new boy friend (who had not spent 30 seconds in a family Court) taking possession of my share in the former home and unrestricted access to my children!Once again the likes of Huntley are lavished with rights which many fathers could only dream of and if this prejudice affected anyone else in society it would be deemed illegal!!
In an unprecedented act of commonsense this new coalition Government in the form of Home Secretary Teresa May has succumbed to the 10 year campaign by Sara Payne who’s campaign along with Baby Peter, and Family Law crisis inspired my original blog last October, and who’s daughter Sarah was murdered by a convicted sex offender Roy Whiting at the age of 8. So called Sarah’s Law will alert parents of sex offenders, lets hope this includes the afore mentioned Venables, living in their neighbourhoods and whilst there are the usual bleats of vigilantism, providing false allegations are dealt with robustly, let this be a stronger deterrent then
any Government, Law or System could purvey!
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