Focus on Parental Alienation as Child Abuse!

I have long been inspired by the dignity and resolve of my friend Wee Cheng in Singapore.

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I wish I had his stamina to promote the case for Parental Alienation Awareness as he has across the world, especially as I arrive at my forth year to the day (19th September) since my 2 sons were willfully withheld by their mother. Now aged 12 and 15 I will never recapture those lost years at a time most crucial for a Dad to be with his kids especially in these days of massive peer and media pressure, and my anticipated regret that I may never rekindle any form of meaningful relationship with them again. I only hope and pray they never have the life of regret I surely will because of the actions of one person condoned by an appalling system!


There are many great organisations around the world who highlight the plight of children taken from a traditional family setting and deprived contact with the 'non resident' parent, most often the Dad but also on occasion Mum. The law seems to discriminated between good and bad parents and conversely benefits the bad parents where good parents try to normalise the situation as much as possible!

http://www.paawareness.org/Whilst the corrupt systems from around the world allows for a vengeful mother to use her children as tools, weapons or bargaining chips for their own self serving financial gains Parental Alienating will thrive and appears to be actively condoned by Family Court , so called child welfare organisations and in time the public as a whole. Extended family are swept up in it so whilst one family benefits from regular visitations grandparents uncles and aunts from the alienated family do not! Police, schools and other public bodies tend to take the side of the alienating family as doubt is cast on the integrity of the alienated family who never get to prove their case.



So when people are scathing about feckless and runaway dads firstly consider those of us who are branded as 'absent' when as in my case I would have loved to have been prime carer as I wanted the best I could do for my children. At the same time consider the mothers (in the main) who deliberately set out to have children, then gain all the benefits the state has to offer including limit less legal aid when it all inevitably goes wrong and then how the courts and CSA actively encourage this behaviour allowing the mothers case to be taken as read whilst the father is seldom heard. The Mother could win a million on the lottery but the CSA will still purse a father to the point of him living on a park bench or.......Suicide!

I have the prospect this month of 'celebrating' 4 years of Parental Alienation on the 19th,the last time I had meaningful contact with my children in spite of court orders allowing regular access. On the 21st I have been summoned to court for CSA arrears in spite of the process sending me bankrupt and unlikely to recover anytime soon whilst the mother walks a way with the former family home sold to the tune of £240,000 for her. I am left with difficulty paying a premium mortgage on a second family home provided for on truck driver wages close to the former one and both schools! All this I did in the true best interest of my children, yet I could face Jail!


On the 23rd September I arrive at my 53rd Birthday!



http://www.dadsindistress.asn.au/www/content/default.aspx?cid=942

A World Gone Mad!

Parents must control their kids.................

http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/features/3766074/Sun-visits-riot-torn-Tottenham.html

I have admired Shaun Bailey for some time, this softly spoken guy comes with a raft of common-sense! Davey
(Read more about him by clicking on this blogs title above)http://daveyonefamilylawman.blogspot.com/2009/10/education-education-education.html



'Paedos' Charter........................?
http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/3766244/Paedos-charter-lets-them-see-kids.html
In this instance the child's human rights should be paramount, and we should all act in their best interest to protect them!
These Paedo's should forfeit any rights the minuet they impose their will on a child!

Attorney- General, selective justice!
http://www.publications.parliament.uk/pa/cm201011/cmhansrd/cm110706/debtext/110706-0003.htm
I have contacted the Attorney- General and ask him to consider the injustice I have incurred over the past 7 years but once again he has deferred this to the Ministry of Justice. I had hoped he would also consider the plight of Dave Hawksworth as he seems more interested in high profile cases as with the support he offered to Chris Jefferey's who appeared to face trial by media last December over the Jo Yeates murder in the city at Christmas.

To this end I call on the BBC to broadcast a special edition to coincide with the forthcoming Family Justice review due for publication this autumn. I would hope to see contributions not only from the Reviews chairman, David Norgrove but also Shaun Bailey, John Hemming MP, Lynne Featherstone MP. Camilla Cavendish Times journalist, Iain Duncan Smith DWP minister, Lord Justice Ward, Ken Clarke,Jack Straw and London Mayor Boris Johnson, Even Sir Bob;
together they could hold the key to solving this burning issue!

What hope I ask when our eminent Law Lord complains of injustice himself in The Times on 1st May 2008 and again in Bristol in 2009 yet as a law maker surely he has the power to fix it?
The ineffectual Lord Justice Falconer did nothing to advance the reform of family justice, Jack Straw did not enforce his open court policy for fear he may offend the very judges that needed scrutiny, and Ken Clarke who was seen napping during the PM's speech following the riots still remains oblivious to the problem.

I truly hope the publication of the forthcoming review does not prove to be the fudge many of us are expecting!

The potential for riots will not stop until you confront family justice!

The Prime Minister's words on Thursday condemning the riots and putting robust measures in place to deal with the aftermath in London then other parts of England does not go far enough to prevent such an uprising occurring again.



( Is that the Justice Minister asleep as the PM speaks?)

You may need to enforce parental responsibility and be aware that all too often the rights designed to protect children especially within the legal grey area between the ages 11 to 16 will undermine PR giving children to act in a manner they a rarely mature enough to understand the long term ramifications on their own lives. This also gives cause for concern in the classroom where a teacher has to tread carefully with any form of reprimand whilst the kids are free to abuse the adult with impunity. Is it therefore any wonder many have little or no regard for the law or the police who have to enforce it? If parents where made to be responsible for their children's actions in the form of fines or even imprisonment until they were 18 or leaving home, wouldn't this make them think twice of firstly having children when they are often still children themselves, and secondary make them more considerate in ensuring their children do learn right from wrong and the true meaning of respect from an early age, and not the street cred version!

David Cameron made some ill timed remarks on Father's Day seeking to ostrasise Dads further then they have been already,being discibed as absent, feckless of runaway when more often then not it is the very system that alienates many fathers from their children.

Nick Clegg said on the Nick Ferrari LBC Breakfast show he saw no coralation between the riots of this past week and the Governments policy of reducing police numbers. It would appear the deputy Prime Minister needs an education in common sense as anyone can see if you cut back front line officers you pave the way to lawlessness and he went on to suggest if you wish to protest you are welcome to attend Parliament Square in a law abiding manner.

Well I did ( and called Nick Ferrari and Vanessa Feltz to tell them) that I had parked my van in the late Brian Haw's spot in part as tribute to him , and sat there eating my Mcdonalds breakfast, but before long I had my details taken and was moved on I even coped for a congestion charge penelty for not leaving London early enough! (£120 fine, I have 36p in my account!)


It is time this Government and others wake up and smell the coffee as if the current Family Justice Review being carried out by David Norgrove at the Ministry of Justice proves to be the fudge many campaigners believe it will prove to be, then the malise generated by the Ministry of Justice will encourage mob Rule and Jeremy Kyle fodder will reign supreme!



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You can also write to The Daily Mail and encourage them to campaign and if you click on the title of this blog you will see my friend from Australia Matt Meurer's take on this subject too.