I have long been inspired by the dignity and resolve of my friend Wee Cheng in Singapore.
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I wish I had his stamina to promote the case for Parental Alienation Awareness as he has across the world, especially as I arrive at my forth year to the day (19th September) since my 2 sons were willfully withheld by their mother. Now aged 12 and 15 I will never recapture those lost years at a time most crucial for a Dad to be with his kids especially in these days of massive peer and media pressure, and my anticipated regret that I may never rekindle any form of meaningful relationship with them again. I only hope and pray they never have the life of regret I surely will because of the actions of one person condoned by an appalling system!
There are many great organisations around the world who highlight the plight of children taken from a traditional family setting and deprived contact with the 'non resident' parent, most often the Dad but also on occasion Mum. The law seems to discriminated between good and bad parents and conversely benefits the bad parents where good parents try to normalise the situation as much as possible!
http://www.paawareness.org/Whilst the corrupt systems from around the world allows for a vengeful mother to use her children as tools, weapons or bargaining chips for their own self serving financial gains Parental Alienating will thrive and appears to be actively condoned by Family Court , so called child welfare organisations and in time the public as a whole. Extended family are swept up in it so whilst one family benefits from regular visitations grandparents uncles and aunts from the alienated family do not! Police, schools and other public bodies tend to take the side of the alienating family as doubt is cast on the integrity of the alienated family who never get to prove their case.
So when people are scathing about feckless and runaway dads firstly consider those of us who are branded as 'absent' when as in my case I would have loved to have been prime carer as I wanted the best I could do for my children. At the same time consider the mothers (in the main) who deliberately set out to have children, then gain all the benefits the state has to offer including limit less legal aid when it all inevitably goes wrong and then how the courts and CSA actively encourage this behaviour allowing the mothers case to be taken as read whilst the father is seldom heard. The Mother could win a million on the lottery but the CSA will still purse a father to the point of him living on a park bench or.......Suicide!
There are many great organisations around the world who highlight the plight of children taken from a traditional family setting and deprived contact with the 'non resident' parent, most often the Dad but also on occasion Mum. The law seems to discriminated between good and bad parents and conversely benefits the bad parents where good parents try to normalise the situation as much as possible!
http://www.paawareness.org/Whilst the corrupt systems from around the world allows for a vengeful mother to use her children as tools, weapons or bargaining chips for their own self serving financial gains Parental Alienating will thrive and appears to be actively condoned by Family Court , so called child welfare organisations and in time the public as a whole. Extended family are swept up in it so whilst one family benefits from regular visitations grandparents uncles and aunts from the alienated family do not! Police, schools and other public bodies tend to take the side of the alienating family as doubt is cast on the integrity of the alienated family who never get to prove their case.
So when people are scathing about feckless and runaway dads firstly consider those of us who are branded as 'absent' when as in my case I would have loved to have been prime carer as I wanted the best I could do for my children. At the same time consider the mothers (in the main) who deliberately set out to have children, then gain all the benefits the state has to offer including limit less legal aid when it all inevitably goes wrong and then how the courts and CSA actively encourage this behaviour allowing the mothers case to be taken as read whilst the father is seldom heard. The Mother could win a million on the lottery but the CSA will still purse a father to the point of him living on a park bench or.......Suicide!
I have the prospect this month of 'celebrating' 4 years of Parental Alienation on the 19th,the last time I had meaningful contact with my children in spite of court orders allowing regular access. On the 21st I have been summoned to court for CSA arrears in spite of the process sending me bankrupt and unlikely to recover anytime soon whilst the mother walks a way with the former family home sold to the tune of £240,000 for her. I am left with difficulty paying a premium mortgage on a second family home provided for on truck driver wages close to the former one and both schools! All this I did in the true best interest of my children, yet I could face Jail!
On the 23rd September I arrive at my 53rd Birthday!
http://www.dadsindistress.asn.au/www/content/default.aspx?cid=942
