Focus on Parental Alienation as Child Abuse!

I have long been inspired by the dignity and resolve of my friend Wee Cheng in Singapore.

(Click on the blog title for a political view on this and follow this campaign at
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I wish I had his stamina to promote the case for Parental Alienation Awareness as he has across the world, especially as I arrive at my forth year to the day (19th September) since my 2 sons were willfully withheld by their mother. Now aged 12 and 15 I will never recapture those lost years at a time most crucial for a Dad to be with his kids especially in these days of massive peer and media pressure, and my anticipated regret that I may never rekindle any form of meaningful relationship with them again. I only hope and pray they never have the life of regret I surely will because of the actions of one person condoned by an appalling system!


There are many great organisations around the world who highlight the plight of children taken from a traditional family setting and deprived contact with the 'non resident' parent, most often the Dad but also on occasion Mum. The law seems to discriminated between good and bad parents and conversely benefits the bad parents where good parents try to normalise the situation as much as possible!

http://www.paawareness.org/Whilst the corrupt systems from around the world allows for a vengeful mother to use her children as tools, weapons or bargaining chips for their own self serving financial gains Parental Alienating will thrive and appears to be actively condoned by Family Court , so called child welfare organisations and in time the public as a whole. Extended family are swept up in it so whilst one family benefits from regular visitations grandparents uncles and aunts from the alienated family do not! Police, schools and other public bodies tend to take the side of the alienating family as doubt is cast on the integrity of the alienated family who never get to prove their case.



So when people are scathing about feckless and runaway dads firstly consider those of us who are branded as 'absent' when as in my case I would have loved to have been prime carer as I wanted the best I could do for my children. At the same time consider the mothers (in the main) who deliberately set out to have children, then gain all the benefits the state has to offer including limit less legal aid when it all inevitably goes wrong and then how the courts and CSA actively encourage this behaviour allowing the mothers case to be taken as read whilst the father is seldom heard. The Mother could win a million on the lottery but the CSA will still purse a father to the point of him living on a park bench or.......Suicide!

I have the prospect this month of 'celebrating' 4 years of Parental Alienation on the 19th,the last time I had meaningful contact with my children in spite of court orders allowing regular access. On the 21st I have been summoned to court for CSA arrears in spite of the process sending me bankrupt and unlikely to recover anytime soon whilst the mother walks a way with the former family home sold to the tune of £240,000 for her. I am left with difficulty paying a premium mortgage on a second family home provided for on truck driver wages close to the former one and both schools! All this I did in the true best interest of my children, yet I could face Jail!


On the 23rd September I arrive at my 53rd Birthday!



http://www.dadsindistress.asn.au/www/content/default.aspx?cid=942

A World Gone Mad!

Parents must control their kids.................

http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/features/3766074/Sun-visits-riot-torn-Tottenham.html

I have admired Shaun Bailey for some time, this softly spoken guy comes with a raft of common-sense! Davey
(Read more about him by clicking on this blogs title above)http://daveyonefamilylawman.blogspot.com/2009/10/education-education-education.html



'Paedos' Charter........................?
http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/3766244/Paedos-charter-lets-them-see-kids.html
In this instance the child's human rights should be paramount, and we should all act in their best interest to protect them!
These Paedo's should forfeit any rights the minuet they impose their will on a child!

Attorney- General, selective justice!
http://www.publications.parliament.uk/pa/cm201011/cmhansrd/cm110706/debtext/110706-0003.htm
I have contacted the Attorney- General and ask him to consider the injustice I have incurred over the past 7 years but once again he has deferred this to the Ministry of Justice. I had hoped he would also consider the plight of Dave Hawksworth as he seems more interested in high profile cases as with the support he offered to Chris Jefferey's who appeared to face trial by media last December over the Jo Yeates murder in the city at Christmas.

To this end I call on the BBC to broadcast a special edition to coincide with the forthcoming Family Justice review due for publication this autumn. I would hope to see contributions not only from the Reviews chairman, David Norgrove but also Shaun Bailey, John Hemming MP, Lynne Featherstone MP. Camilla Cavendish Times journalist, Iain Duncan Smith DWP minister, Lord Justice Ward, Ken Clarke,Jack Straw and London Mayor Boris Johnson, Even Sir Bob;
together they could hold the key to solving this burning issue!

What hope I ask when our eminent Law Lord complains of injustice himself in The Times on 1st May 2008 and again in Bristol in 2009 yet as a law maker surely he has the power to fix it?
The ineffectual Lord Justice Falconer did nothing to advance the reform of family justice, Jack Straw did not enforce his open court policy for fear he may offend the very judges that needed scrutiny, and Ken Clarke who was seen napping during the PM's speech following the riots still remains oblivious to the problem.

I truly hope the publication of the forthcoming review does not prove to be the fudge many of us are expecting!

The potential for riots will not stop until you confront family justice!

The Prime Minister's words on Thursday condemning the riots and putting robust measures in place to deal with the aftermath in London then other parts of England does not go far enough to prevent such an uprising occurring again.



( Is that the Justice Minister asleep as the PM speaks?)

You may need to enforce parental responsibility and be aware that all too often the rights designed to protect children especially within the legal grey area between the ages 11 to 16 will undermine PR giving children to act in a manner they a rarely mature enough to understand the long term ramifications on their own lives. This also gives cause for concern in the classroom where a teacher has to tread carefully with any form of reprimand whilst the kids are free to abuse the adult with impunity. Is it therefore any wonder many have little or no regard for the law or the police who have to enforce it? If parents where made to be responsible for their children's actions in the form of fines or even imprisonment until they were 18 or leaving home, wouldn't this make them think twice of firstly having children when they are often still children themselves, and secondary make them more considerate in ensuring their children do learn right from wrong and the true meaning of respect from an early age, and not the street cred version!

David Cameron made some ill timed remarks on Father's Day seeking to ostrasise Dads further then they have been already,being discibed as absent, feckless of runaway when more often then not it is the very system that alienates many fathers from their children.

Nick Clegg said on the Nick Ferrari LBC Breakfast show he saw no coralation between the riots of this past week and the Governments policy of reducing police numbers. It would appear the deputy Prime Minister needs an education in common sense as anyone can see if you cut back front line officers you pave the way to lawlessness and he went on to suggest if you wish to protest you are welcome to attend Parliament Square in a law abiding manner.

Well I did ( and called Nick Ferrari and Vanessa Feltz to tell them) that I had parked my van in the late Brian Haw's spot in part as tribute to him , and sat there eating my Mcdonalds breakfast, but before long I had my details taken and was moved on I even coped for a congestion charge penelty for not leaving London early enough! (£120 fine, I have 36p in my account!)


It is time this Government and others wake up and smell the coffee as if the current Family Justice Review being carried out by David Norgrove at the Ministry of Justice proves to be the fudge many campaigners believe it will prove to be, then the malise generated by the Ministry of Justice will encourage mob Rule and Jeremy Kyle fodder will reign supreme!



You can read more on this at My other blogs via the side panel;

You can also write to The Daily Mail and encourage them to campaign and if you click on the title of this blog you will see my friend from Australia Matt Meurer's take on this subject too.

This is my big News (International) !

If my experience of Family Court injustice is replicated in every town, in every county here in the UK, and then throughout the world is it any wonder why society as a whole is imploding on it's self, the terrorist from with in you might call it! Daveyone.

(Click on the blog title for the International Lobby on this)

Having spent £35,000 in family court to attain a joint residency order, 50/50 contact and shared care agreement, in the knowledge that the mother of my children would never act in a conciliatory way, I went on to provide a second family home just 1/2 mile away and close to both schools. I worked in the belief I was doing what was in my children's best interest by showing them stability and a seamless relationship even after separation from their mother.

Jumping through every hoop the Family Justice system had to offer, I went about arranging flexible working opportunities so I was always able to attended for contact and any school function such as parents evenings, sports days, school plays, etc.The whole process put a great stain on me but nonetheless I did my best until the whole process bankrupted me to the tune of £70,000.

http://world4justice.wordpress.com/

My ex was able to capitalise from this by attaining the former family home for a peppercorn rate whilst I had to rely on early access to a private pension fund to avoid my own home being repossessed. I was advised of both these arrangement in the same days post in 2005.

Today I noted the former family home which was marketed in the local paper/estate agents has now been sold and as this is now mortgage free shall benefit my ex and her new partner to the tune of £240,000 whilst the CSA continues to purse me for £7,000 in back payments. They fail to consider all the expenditure I have encured over the past 7 years or indeed the fact my ex has wilfully withheld my children for almost 4 years knowing this rates her as a single parent with sole care and can make the most of all the system has to offer in legal aid and CSA support. I once again stand to lose my home and few possessions!

IS THIS JUSTICE?

http://www.newsprinters.co.uk/Who-are-we/Broxbourne/How-to-find-us

Before Mr. Cameron takes a pop at feckless fathers maybe he should also consider the self serving mothers who fail to have their children's best interest at heart!!


As part of my One Man Dad protest, it is clear to me that it is probably now too late to restore any form of relationship with my lost boys, but I am more then happy to highlight my experience's which I believe are among the worst in Family Justice and too this end would seek to focus the world's attention on all the dads, families and crucially the seldom heard children affected by this injustice. At this slow news time I am also happy for the Murdoch empire to be used to publish our stories worldwide until justice is served!

Claire's Law; OK but beware of the pitfalls!

(please click on blog title for more on this)
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-manchester-14181959
Whilst responding to the Mail on Sunday lead story 17/7/11 Clares Law, I would acknowledge there has to be safeguards in place when taking a chance of meeting someone through the Internet, but commonsense should prevail in any situation for an experienced adult and even more rigorously for children, however this may be seen to undermine their human rights. Safety and parental responsibility should overrule this in such cases.

I can also understand the outcry for a new law that would follow such a heinous crime, but this should not solely be aimed at violent men!

I had hope with the demise of the Labour Government a more pragmatic approach would be adopted by this Tory lead coalition but it seems clear that from David Cameron's attack on so called absent dads on father's day there will be more feminist biased as purveyed by messers Harman, Greer and Blears..
What I object to is the biased leaning of Clare's Law, would it be possible with our overstretched cops to provide such information on violent men or as I would advocate on women too, after all in this age of equality, George Orwell's or otherwise, it should be the case!
Why? Well my indirect findings from 7 years research in the Family Justice system here in the UK and globally has shown that just as many women commit violence on men as the stereotypical man does this most often in the arena of domestic violence in the confines of the home and what is more I have found more women commit abuse against children then men not only physical by psychological abuse too. This manifests it's self most commonly in the form of Parental Alienation; This is when one parent, (most often the mother), uses here children as weapons, tools or bargaining chips to gain what she wants in Family court, legal aid or CSA. The Father is all too often left helpless and broke.

What happened to a mother's maternal instinct when she is prepared to mess with the short span of time that is child hood.

I contribute to a campaign originated in Australia; National Black Ribbon Day which aims to highlight domestic violence against men and suicides. Staying in Australia some 15,972 men have taken their lives as a result of the unjust system purveyed by the CSA
http://dadsontheair.squarespace.com/csa/ and this is only since Nov 2007 when Kevin Rudd came to power and there is little sign of change under Julia Gillard. It is likely that numbers in Canada and the UK are double that and in the USA it is over 100,000 per year where the correlation has been made between returning service personnel coming home to a violent or abusive situation or finding their former partners have left taking children and home with them!I would also warn most vehemently against false allegations.

This too is weapon in a woman's arsenal for her benefit and the authorities will go into overdrive to prove this to be true when it is a spiteful lie that could have a catastrophic out come not only on the man but the family as a whole. Courts lap it up when what started as a regular family argument escalates to even just an item of furniture or some other inanimate object getting broken this too is deemed as violence and you guessed it once again it is the man who will take the wrap even if the woman instigated, provoked or even committed physical violence on this occasion. False allegations also undermine the true cases of violence and no right minded person should condone this practice.
http://www.thisislondon.co.uk/standard/article-23800038-harriet-harman---from-sloane-to-class-warrior.do

A good day for bad news!

14th July was a tough day for me as it was the 12th Birthday of my youngest son whom the mother has willfully with held since 19th September 2007 (Parental Alienation), so the fact I was able to hand him a birthday card on his way to school ( with my car parked on the obligatory service station with CCTV) was a double edged sword, as I was glad he appeared OK, his school reports suggest he is doing fine as does the knowledge that he and his team mates had won the local under 12's football league this past season. I was also able on that day to wave to my eldest son who at 15 I barely recognise,but I still had to drive away with that deep feeling of loss almost like a hunger in the pit of my stomach. Why ,when I had done all the right things in Family court was I now here in this isolated place?


This morning I heard Yasmin Alibhai-Brown of The Independent suggest to Nick Ferrari on LBC,suggest there were more important news items to discuss then the ongoing 'Good day for bad news' story that is Murdoch! I had to agree as I believe it is now that Family Justice reform should be top of the news agenda and to some degree was heartened by the other Murdoch stable mate The Times that seemed able to question the current role the press has in advising the public and indeed Camilla Cavendish who for many years has written extensively on Family Law asks in the 14th July edition; 'Will this judge really be on the people's side?' Referring to Lord Justice Leverson who is to investigate Murdoch/Hackingate, she goes on to say; If regulation of the press is too tight it will benefit the corrupt and overpowerful - not the ordinary citizens. I say in light of the Murdoch revelations and David Cameron's extreme efforts to bring the complaints against the Press, Police and indeed the Politicians out in the open, I wish he would show such vigor when it comes to Family Justice which for some time I have regarded as the terrorist from within that undermines children, their families and society as a whole!

MPs demand rethink on allowing media into the family courts: planned access "conflicts with child privacy rights"


14th July 2011
The Justice Select Committee has concluded that provisions in the Children, Schools and Families Act to allow the media into the family courts should be abolished due to conflict with a child's rights to privacy and to have his or her voice heard before decisions are taken that affect his or her life. The report also warns that legal aid cuts will result in more people going to court without lawyers.

Frances Gibb

Times, July 14, 2011, 18. Also reported in Herald, July 14, 2011 (Online edition); Belfast Telegraph, July 14, 2011 (Online edition)


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As reported by Francis Gibb in the same days edition of the Times, we now see the very same MPs in the form of Sir Alan Beth MP seeking to censor family courts once again ( Camilla Cavendish was in fact on of the first reporters allowed into a court in Ipswich to reveal it's workings) when there is nothing stopping a judge from putting the same safeguards in place for sensitive family courts as they do in criminal court such as Child A, Child B or Family XYZ and where appropriate a reference number could be issued to the press where regulated issues may be addressed and allowed into the public domain, but the censor really has a more sinister reason as does the whole ethos of these secret courts and that is to protect the failing Family court Judges who all too often are able to use court reporters from CAFCASS or the Social Services as scapegoats when they get is wrong and their final judgements prove irreversible and a disaster for the children and families involved!



I was however heartened to find this Click on blog title for more on this;
Then there is tragedy such as this that the system let through their fingers. It is time that society realises that mother's do not always know best an father too should be heard http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-14158604


So as for the 14th July, on a day that should have been marked with celebration for me with my sons , I was later to learn in the local press that my former family home that has housed my children for much of their young lives is to be sold, and probably a name change will finally secure that nail in the coffin of these past 7 years of family law hell!

Would you criminalise your Dad?

I certainly would not have...........




but that is exactly what the UK family justice system is doing to Dave Hawksworth
(click this blogs title for more on his story) and having handed my son his birthday card for tomorrow after almost 4 years of PAS. I could be following Dave into jail,
especially as I have now had a CSA Liability order against me without any course
of redress to show my situation
(clear to all via my blogs)


http://www.csahell.com/csa-will-not-assess-me-on-factual-actual-earnings-liability-order-applied-for-135.html